Al-Kāfi

Treating One’s Wife with Honor

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Hadith 1938
1. Humayd ibn Ziyad has narrated from al-Hassan ibn Muhammad ibn Sama‘ah from more than one person from Aban from abu Maryam who has said the
folio wing: “Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘How can one of you hurt the woman whom he continues to embrace? 5 ”
1- حُمَيْدُ بْنُ زِيَادٍ عَنِ الْحَسَنِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سَمَاعَةَ عَنْ غَيْرِ وَاحِدٍ عَنْ أَبَانٍ عَنْ أَبِي مَرْيَمَ عَنْ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) أَيَضْرِبُ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَرْأَةَ ثُمَّ يَظَلُّ مُعَانِقَهَا.
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Hadith 1939
2. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father from al-Nawfaliy from al-Sakuniy who has said the following
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘A woman is like a doll which one chooses but does not waste or destroy. 5 ”
2- عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنِ النَّوْفَلِيِّ عَنِ السَّكُونِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) إِنَّمَا الْمَرْأَةُ لُعْبَةٌ مَنِ اتَّخَذَهَا فَلا يُضَيِّعْهَا.
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Hadith 1940
3. Abu Ali al-Ash’ariy has narrated from certain persons of our people from Ja’far ibn ‘Anbasah from ‘Abbad ibn Ziyad al-Asadiy from ‘Amr ibn abu al-Miqdam from Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), and Ahmad ibn Muhammad from those who narrated to him from Mu’afla’ ibn Muhammad al-Basriy from Ali ibn Hassan from ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn al-Kathir who has said the following
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that it is in the letter of ’Amir al-Mu 5 minin to al-Hassan (a.s.), which says, ‘You must not give control of things beyond her own affairs to a woman; it is easier for her condition, comfortable for her mind and helps her beauty to last longer, because women are like sweet basil and not a wrestling champion and she must not allow her soul to bypass her grace and honor. Help her to cast down her eyes by your covering, withhold her with your veil, and not to incite her to intercede for others before you so that the recommended incline toward her and go before yourself for the rest. Your restraining yourself from women when they see you dominant is better than their seeing you in a condition of breaking apart. 5 ” Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn Sa‘id has narrated from Ja’far ibn Muhammad al-Hassaniy from Ali ibn ‘Abdaka from al-Hassan ibn Zarif ibn Nasih from al-Husayn ibn ‘Ulwan from Sa‘d ibn Tarif from al- Asbagh ibn Nubatah from ‘Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), has narrated a similar Hadith except that he has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), wrote the letter to his son Muhammad, may Allah be pleased with him.
3- أَبُو عَلِيٍّ الأشْعَرِيُّ عَنْ بَعْضِ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ عَنْبَسَةَ عَنْ عَبَّادِ بْنِ زِيَادٍ الأسَدِيِّ عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ أَبِي الْمِقْدَامِ عَنْ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) وَأَحْمَدُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الْعَاصِمِيُّ عَمَّنْ حَدَّثَهُ عَنْ مُعَلَّى بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ الْبَصْرِيِّ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ حَسَّانَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ كَثِيرٍ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ
فِي رِسَالَةِ أَمِيرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِلَى الْحَسَنِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) لا تُمَلِّكِ الْمَرْأَةَ مِنَ الأمْرِ مَا يُجَاوِزُ نَفْسَهَا فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَنْعَمُ لِحَالِهَا وَأَرْخَى لِبَالِهَا وَأَدْوَمُ لِجَمَالِهَا فَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ رَيْحَانَةٌ وَلَيْسَتْ بِقَهْرَمَانَةٍ وَلا تَعْدُ بِكَرَامَتِهَا نَفْسَهَا وَاغْضُضْ بَصَرَهَا بِسِتْرِكَ وَاكْفُفْهَا بِحِجَابِكَ وَلا تُطْمِعْهَا أَنْ تَشْفَعَ لِغَيْرِهَا فَيَمِيلَ عَلَيْكَ مَنْ شَفَعَتْ لَهُ عَلَيْكَ مَعَهَا وَاسْتَبْقِ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ بَقِيَّةً فَإِنَّ إِمْسَاكَكَ نَفْسَكَ عَنْهُنَّ وَهُنَّ يَرَيْنَ أَنَّكَ ذُو اقْتِدَارٍ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَنْ يَرَيْنَ مِنْكَ حَالا عَلَى انْكِسَارٍ. أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سَعِيدٍ عَنْ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ الْحَسَنِيِّ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ عَبْدَكٍ عَنِ الْحَسَنِ بْنِ طَرِيفِ بْنِ نَاصِحٍ عَنِ الْحُسَيْنِ بْنِ عُلْوَانَ عَنْ سَعْدِ بْنِ طَرِيفٍ عَنِ الأصْبَغِ بْنِ نُبَاتَةَ عَنْ أَمِيرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) مِثْلَهُ إِلا أَنَّهُ قَالَ كَتَبَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ صَلَوَاتُ اللهِ عَلَيْهِ بِهَذِهِ الرِّسَالَةِ إِلَى ابْنِهِ مُحَمَّدٍ رِضْوَانُ اللهِ عَلَيْهِ.
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